Gamblers and Abstainers:
Either way, you're hit the jackpot with
By Nicky VanValkenburgh
Have you ever thought of children as a
risk? You may not believe in gambling. The thought of playing Blackjack, buying lottery tickets, going to
casinos, or putting quarters in slot machines probably does not appeal to you. As a parent, you probably abstain
from all forms of gambling. You might consider it to be morally wrong. Or maybe the risk is too great. You could
lose money. Or even your dignity.
When it comes to gambling, are you an
Abstainer? You prefer to stay away or distance yourself from gambling, and have nothing to do with
In reality, every parent is a
gambler! This concept may surprise you, but think about it for a
moment.Bringing children into this world is an incredible
risk.It’s like putting a quarter in a slot machine, and pulling the lever.
You have no way of knowing the outcome. You may see the wheels turning, and hope for a big
win.However, you ultimately get whatever comes out.
There’s no money-back guarantee. No return policy. No exchanges if it’s the wrong
shape, size or color. In case of defects, no replacement is available. Customer service? Sorry, there isn’t any.
You must handle all complaints, grievances, malfunctions and unmet expectations.
Yes, being a parent isn’t Wal-Mart. There
is an incredible financial, physical and emotional risk in having children. It’s a gamble. Unfortunately, being
a parent makes you a gambler.
What are our odds of winning at this game?
Most expectant mothers take precautions to ensure a healthy pregnancy. We get regular medical check-ups. We eat
healthy foods, abstain from smoking and alcohol, and may even exercise to stay fit.
Every mother wants the odds to be in her
favor. She does everything possible to ensure the best possible outcome. Even so, there is still an incredible
risk in bringing children into this world. Why take such a big risk? Perhaps the perceived benefits of having
children outweigh the risks. Or maybe, we’ve already put our coin into the slot machine, and there is no turning
Your child is like a little gold coin that
tumbles out of the slot machine. You’ve hit the jackpot. That’s right, your child is a winner. What are you
going to do with your winning prize?
It's time for a
celebration. Whether you have a baby, preschooler or a youngster in elementary school— treasure your child. Take
time to talk with them, read books, play games, and spend lots of time together. Encourage your child to ask
questions. Be a good listener. Encourage your child to share their feelings and insights. Perhaps the most
valuable thing you can give your child is your time, love and attention. Let’s make the most of today and
cherish it with our children.
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